Do you have anime friends IRL?

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  1. seppuku95

    seppuku95 Registered

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    I know it's a silly question, since 95% of people have friends and a basic level of relationships. But I'm wondering fi you guys have people to hang round and talk about anime with.

    I have one person I speak to every week or something, but about general stuff and not any nerdy things. Apart from that I don't really have any friends so spend most of my time loitering around depressed all day (think Satou from NHK but maybe a little worse and less enthusastic).

    I've just felt extremely lonely for a long time and it's not very nice.
     
  2. Necro

    Necro Grim User

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    Not really. I have my go-to person for anything anime related, who I go to events with and send links to news too, but in person we rarely talk about it.

    I prefer keeping it online anyway, but would be nice to have more hobby friends.
     
  3. Shadow Cat

    Shadow Cat HelloKittyIsMyWaifu

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    No not really. I know of a few people around me who does watch anime but I haven't spoken to them in a while

    Friends in general is a touchy subject, as many people know my communication skills are... Poor lol

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    Wow, after posting this I saw someone who I haven't seen in like 6 years. Damn
     
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  4. Manning

    Manning The Lunatic Fringe

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    Lack of friends who watch anime or understood I like it with without calling me a cartoon porn lover was the reason I sought out online communities in the first place.

    Especially in later school/college days, I only had a cousin who I rarely spoke to who watched anime, but none of my close friends watched it. Internet forums and IRC chat (back in the day) I found was the only place I could have a good discussion about anime. At one point I was even going to meet ups and braved a convention. While the latter two we're not bad experiences, I was out of my comfort zone and choose to just stick to forums these days and that's more than enough for me in reaching a wider group of people with the same interests as me.

    Things aren't so bad now, I have a close friend who will watch some things I recommend on occasion, he watched Attack on Titan, and Sword Art Online and enjoyed them both, I can have a good conversation about stuff with him sometimes. Other close friends also have a broader opinion when it comes to anime, and I'm not the butt of a joke so much anymore, we all mature I guess :)
     
  5. dapprman

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    I'm fortunate that I've friends who I've got in to anime and friends who independently discovered it. Now many, but a few. Also go friends/colleagues with young families who've I've introduce Mayazaki to (Totoro of course ;) )

    I do remember in my early days of anime and fan subs there was virtually no Internet in the UK outside of academia and industry and we used to swap tapes by post and by hand.
     
  6. -Danielle-

    -Danielle- Whore dollas all over the place...

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    Before I met people off here I had no one.

    My ex who I'm still friends with would watch anime with me and enjoy some so I had the odd chat with him. My ex colleague is slowly getting into it and I have another online chum outside of here I've met twice who I talk Berserk with lol.

    For the first 12 years of me liking anime I was all alone though.

    I go/went to cons on my own all the time and for the most part I'm ok with that. I do get sad sometimes when I see other civilians there with friends though.
     
  7. Jinjer

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    i guess i just hang out with the wrong crowd, only my actual nerd cousin's into it (and she's kinda been my go-to "supplier", heh heh) and some of my exes (but they're all into just the shonen stuff from back when they're kids, i.e. dragonball, one piece, et al)
     
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    Not counting the ones on here or met through here; about 8. There's even one who likes JoJo's!
     
  9. Weirdo

    Weirdo UKA Editor in Chief
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    Do some of the people on here who I have known >15 years count? :D
     
  10. Unknownfate

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    No :)

    I had a few friends back in my school days that were into Anime. In fact since I was a slave to the four terrestrial channels I was introduced via Violence Jack by one of them. Not the best introduction to Anime perhaps but that's what Sci-fi was showing at the time
     
  11. Cell

    Cell Ye ragin', aye?

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    To be fair, I grew up with a few friends (read four) in the wilderness of being an anime fan between 1995 and 2005 where nobody gave a hoot about it and often told us to stop watching cartoon porn. As anime grew more popular I moved on to other things to an extent but I can talk to those same four plus my girlfriend about weeaboo matters if needed.
     
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    My oldest nephew is a fan of anime, he was in his university's anime club till he graduated and the barman at a pub I go to enjoys anime.
     
  13. seppuku95

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    thanks for the responses everyone :)

    I think there are literally 2 people irl who know I like anime, but I doubt they know the extent since I barely spoke about it with them anyway. Quite a few online do, though.

    I pretty much have light contact with 1 guy irl and the rest I lost all contact with as they went to uni while I've not worked or studied since leaving sixth form. I didn't have any proper close friends but it seems I've been blanked a lot. I guess I'd call the one guy a close friend but since I don't share a lot of things and don't go out too often with him I'm not sure if it counts, childhood friend though so it's something.

    There's really not much support once you become an adult, expectations are increased tenfold and judgements are way more severe.

    p.s. hope you have a nice reunion

    I'm surprised the age range is so diverse on this site, it's nice to know since it seems mostly teenagers who like it or go to events.
     
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  14. dapprman

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    Don't forget that we are used to anime (and manga) being targeted at all age groups, but when myself and Duoinchains (can't remember which of us is older) were at university, over here there was the US/UK produce derived view that cartoons were just for kids. You had to be a real comic fan to know of the Spanish and Italian scene, normally through US monthly collection Heavy Metal.

    Still at least I can say I saw Akira in the cinema on it's original tour - though it does open the argument was there a limited arts cinema release around the world before the official launch as I am certain I saw it in 1987 and it would have been impossible for me to see it at the same location (the newly opened arts cinema in Wolverhampton in the old Chub Lock (?) building).
     
  15. duoinchains

    duoinchains t'other resident yaoi fan

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    Me, by about 3 months, iirc ;) And I have never been to uni...


    Despite being part of a group of geek friends in my late teens and early-20s, I don't recall there being much discussion about anime/manga. We were certainly into comics, sci-fi and rpgs, but anime just didn't seem to be on our radar. Though I know we'd all seen Akira and probably the early shows like Gatchaman/BotP, they were lumped in with all the other 'cartoons'.

    It wasn't until I got online in the mid-90s that I properly discovered anime and, through the various forums, found some like-minded folks, a number of who I have met irl.

    And since getting into the whole steampunk thing, I've found quite a few steampunk friends also into anime, so we do discuss it when we meet up.

    Likewise with my circle of toytraingeek friends - a surprising number of them are also into anime and being more local we do discuss the latest season and swap/loan dvds around from time to time.
     
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    I'm sure you were escorted from the grounds of Reading Uni on more than one occasion old man :p
     
  17. duoinchains

    duoinchains t'other resident yaoi fan

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    Whereabouts in the country are you? Is there an anime society/club (or even a general geek-type group... they do exist!) near you? My local one is at Reading uni, but it's open to non students.

    And there's the occasional informal meet-up at cons (or the annual UK-A gathering) which are usually announced on here - these might kick-start rl friendships. I've met up with a few folk on here and a few more from the old (defunct) Neo forum.
     
  18. Carlito

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    Well my wife is the one who got me into anime, does that count?

    Apart from that, most people I know IRL, are from here. I met Weirdo and a few others in 2008. Got to know Ross, Hanners and some others in 2009. and others via the UKA Stock weekends.
     
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    North west, I'm not sure but really the biggest issue is I have no clue how to act around people anymore due to life taking its toll on me (among other things). I guess the closest Con would be Liverpool or Manchester, though honestly I'm not really sure what I'd do in a con.
     
  20. Cell

    Cell Ye ragin', aye?

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    Seems like you're probably in the group of people who got into anime roughly 5-10 years before I did, when it was still pretty much a stigmata to watch it- especially where I live in the Highlands of Scotland. I don't think there's been a real anime following up here at all and even cons like DeeCon are pretty recent.
     

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